DIRE LA VÉRITÉ OU NE PAS LA DIRE ...??

Voici un sujet extrêmement difficile à débattre et qui me revient souvent en question. Faut-il dire la vérité ou faut-il la cacher ? 

C'est presque impossible de donner une réponse universelle, objective car toute situation est une situation particulière et subjective. 

Cependant, on peut tenter de répondre en avançant dans une argumentation axée sur les conséquences. 

Le problème de la vérité se pose essentiellement vis à vis de ceux qui sont importants à nos yeux : nos amis, notre partenaire, notre famille. Et plus cette personne à qui on devrait dire la vérité est importante à nos yeux et plus la question devient cruciale, entêtante et lourde de conséquences si elle est sue un jour, soit par nous mêmes, soit par autrui.  

Dire la vérité c'est prendre un risque. Le risque de perdre l'autre, le risque de se retrouver seul, le risque d'être abandonné. 

Ne pas dire la vérité c'est également prendre un risque. Le risque de devoir mentir puis le risque que cette vérité, accompagnée de ses mensonges soient dévoilés. 

Dire la vérité va permettre de retrouver son estime de soi, son intégrité et remettre à plat la relation. 

Ne pas dire la vérité va permettre de garder un contrôle (illusoire) et d'éviter le conflit. 

Notre argument principal pour taire la vérité est souvent axé sur la peur de faire mal, la peur de blesser l'autre et la peur de détruire une relation. Mais c'est une fausse excuse qui permet de noyer son estime de soi dans un sentiment de moralité bienveillante.

Mais ce qu'il y a de plus lourd dans le fait de cacher une vérité est que l'on soit contraint de mentir pour continuer à la cacher. Et, quand la vérité est dévoilée, la pire douleur vient du mensonge. 

Mentir, c'est s'engluer dans la trahison. Plus nous allons nous taire, plus nous allons devoir mentir et plus nous allons trahir. Celui qui ne dit pas la vérité et s'enferre dans ses mensonges souffre de ne pouvoir la dire. Plus il va mentir, plus il va tenter d'oublier cette souffrance pour continuer à mentir ou maintenir ses mensonges.

La vérité va provoquer un raz de marée d'émotions négatives chez l'autre et créer une distance terrible entre les deux parties. Plus que la confiance, c'est le respect qui va devenir branlant et chancelant. Il faut se préparer, rester ouvert et écouter. 

Une fois dite, c'est la souffrance de celui qui reçoit la vérité qui va être sur le devant de la scène, qui va être au centre de la relation. L'un va se retrouver désemparé face aux émotions de l'autre, l'autre va se retrouver trahi et se croire sans importance aux yeux de l'autre. Le déséquilibre est total et englué dans toute une série d'émotions ingérables au prime abord. 

Your next iPhone might be able to protect itself from thieves

What if your iPhone could help actively protect itself, even after it's been stolen?

That potential idea was considered in a new patent application Apple filed Thursday with the US Patent & Trademark Office.

According to the application, which AppleInsider wrote about, a future iPhone may -- when triggered by the right circumstances -- start documenting an alleged thief's fingerprints through the Touch ID home button, picture and videos from the cameras and even voice from the microphone.

Such capabilities, while perhaps legally questionable, could go much further than Apple's current lock screen and Find My iPhone app.

An Apple representative didn't respond to a request for comment.

Flaming Hot Actress Bella Thorne Came Out As Bisexual In The Most Hella Chill Way Imaginable

I’ll be honest, I had never heard of Bella Thorne until today, which is a massive oversight on my part, cause this chick’s beyond gorgeous. Annabella Avery “Bella” Thorne is an American actress and singer. She played Ruthy Spivey in the TV series My Own Worst Enemy, Tancy Henrickson in the fourth season of Big Love, and CeCe Jones on the Disney Channel series Shake It Up. She also appeared as Hilary/”Larry” in Blended and as Celia in Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day. In 2015, she played Madison in The Duff and Amanda in Perfect High.

Just this past week – yesterday, actually – Thorne came out in maybe the most chill way possible. While most celebrities make a big extravaganza about revealing their sexuality, using magazine covers, personal essays or YouTube videos, it only took Bella one word, and we love her for it.

All hail Octobot! Harvard debuts adorable 3D-printed soft robot

Not all robots are metal monstrosities with unchecked artificial intelligence that could jeopardize mankind's future. Meet Octobot, a 3D-printed autonomous soft robot out of Harvard crafted exclusively of flexible parts.

Harvard calls Octobot "the first autonomous, entirely soft robot." Its squishy-looking tentacles wiggle and dance thanks to a microfluidics-controlled chemical reaction that turns hydrogen peroxide into gas that flows into the octobot's arms, inflating them like a balloon. The tentacled robot is inspired by real-life octopi.

Because of their flexibility, soft robots hold certain advantages over their rigid counterparts. But until now, they've relied on hard components in one way or another. Not Octobot.

"The struggle has always been in replacing rigid components like batteries and electronic controls with analogous soft systems and then putting it all together," Robert Wood of Harvard's Wyss Institute for Biologically Inspired Engineering said in a statement. "This research demonstrates that we can easily manufacture the key components of a simple, entirely soft robot, which lays the foundation for more complex designs."

This week the Harvard researchers published a paper called "An integrated design and fabrication strategy for entirely soft, autonomous robots" in the journal Nature that features their findings on flexible robotics.

"This research is a proof of concept," Ryan Truby, a graduate student in Harvard's Lewis lab and co-author of the paper, said. "We hope that our approach for creating autonomous soft robots inspires roboticists, material scientists and researchers focused on advanced manufacturing."

Next up, the Harvard team hopes to design an octobot that can crawl, swim and interact with its environment. And obviously look really cute doing all that.

skateboard baby stroller that comes with brakes and handlebars for steering ...

Get your child hooked on adrenaline rushes from an early age with some crazy downhill rides on the longboard baby stroller. This radical stroller will keep your baby safe and comfy as they experience the thrill of whizzing down the street at dangerous speeds.

Getting a tattoo from an industrial robot looks intense

Getting a new tattoo can be a fun (or scary) experience, depending on what type of person you are...but what if you had the chance to get a tattoo from a robot? Two designers modified a large industrial robot to ink tattoos onto human flesh, but you'll need to be restrained tightly.

Nissan is also in the news this week after unveiling a working prototype of its three-wheeler electric vehicle, the BladeGlider. It definitely looks futuristic, but there's no guarantee a commercial model would look anything like it. We have our fingers crossed, though!

'Quadrooter' security flaws said to affect over 900 million Android devices

Four newly-discovered vulnerabilities found in Android phones and tablets that ship with a Qualcomm chip could allow an attacker to take complete control of an affected device.

The set of vulnerabilities, dubbed "Quadrooter," affects over 900 million phone and tablets, according to Check Point researchers who discovered the flaws.

An attacker would have to trick a user into installing a malicious app, which wouldn't require any special permissions.

If successfully exploited, an attacker can gain root access, which gives the attacker full access to an affected Android device, its data, and its hardware -- including its camera and microphone.

Google's own branded Nexus 5X, Nexus 6, and Nexus 6P devices are affected, as areSamsung's Galaxy S7 and S7 Edge, to name just a few of the models in question. The recently-announced BlackBerry DTEK50, which the company touts as the "most secure Android smartphone," is also vulnerable to one of the flaws.

A patch that will fix one of the flaws will not be widely released until September, a Google spokesperson confirmed.

You can read more of this story on our sister site ZDNet.